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Nice Vs Good


Being Nice Doesn't Make Someone Good


Hi Everyone,


As you know I am a member of many Martial Arts boards/ consulting services.I was reading through a colleague's notes on a separate board. It was a reference to personal safety.. Mostly for children, But I feel it applies to anyone; especially in life if they have experienced being wronged.

Niceness vs. Goodness

- anyone can be nice, but to be good is a different thing

- Bad people can be nice to get what they want, being nice doesn't mean you are good

I felt this was a powerful statement. I started to reflect on how many times in life someone was nice to me, only to come to find out they were not truly altruistic. This will happen to us at least one time in our life, where we will sit an think.."why did they do that" .."I thought we were friends" etc..

This can be in our personal relationships, work related groups or even long term friends.

I feel the way to avoid this, is not to avoid people or to be too guarded; but to listen to what people say.

In Martial Arts, we learn to read body language. When some one is going to kick, punch or grapple; we read and anticipate it and get into defensive position.The same can be applied to when people are being nice to us. Listen to what they say. Are they being nice because they have something to gain from you? Good people will be nice, because they have nothing to gain, other than the satisfaction of helping you and generally never ask for anything in return.

I was always told, "A true friend will tell you what you NEED to hear vs. what you want to hear"


Always have a awesome day, and keep working towards your goals


Dave Tenedorio

The House Of Warriors-Homestead FL 786 529-5425

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